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Taking The Mulligan, (I wish I had)

Take A Mulligan

September 16, 2018
By John Sheda , Toledo Chronicle, Tama News-Herald

"This is another fine mess you've gotten me into, Ollie," Laurel laments to his comedy duo friend, Oliver Hardy. My feelings exactly one evening recently. Have you ever been in a social situation in which you didn't want to be there, there was no reason for you being there and basically there was no way to escape until the evening passed??? For me it was so bad that in my mind I was trying to decide whether the physical pain of a root canal at the dentists would be better than the emotional pain of the couple of hours I was enduring. It was bad!!

While trying to protect the names of the innocent, here is my story: Deb and I were invited to a business meeting which included a free steak dinner by a very close friend of our daughters. I was not asked about the invitation but Deb was, (and since she is so much nicer and kinder toward other's feelings), she couldn't say no to the invitation. It was a social/retirement/investment kind of meeting and was truly meant for people in their 20's or 30's or heck, even their 40's, but not for a couple old "fogies" like Deb and me in the back side of their sixties!! Get the point! WE HAD NO BUSINESS BEING THERE, YET THERE WE WERE.

It's one of those evenings where only about six to eight people are there besides the ones that will be sharing and showing the video presentation after the steak dinner. I found out the afternoon of this evening that we would be attending. Like a Dr. Seuse story..............I DID NOT WANT TO GO, DEB DID NOT WANT TO GO, BUT GO WE DID. GO, GO, GO WE DID. WE DID NOT HAVE FUN. FUN WE DID NOT HAVE, BUT WE DID GO AND GO WE DID!!

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As we were getting ready, (how does one get ready for hell), I told Deb that we weren't leaving until the very last minute because I absolutely did not want to be the first ones there. Absolutely did not want this in no way, shape or form. So we left at about the time we were supposed to be there. Yes, I told myself, at least several others will already be there!!

NOPE, NOPE, NOPE!! Not only were we the first ones to arrive at this nice restaurant, WE WERE THE ONLY ONES THAT WOULD BE ARRIVING THIS FINE EVENING. Yepper, none of the other couples invited showed up. Nary a one! Ah, they were the smart, albeit very rude ones. Rudeness is not always a bad attribute.......maybe. Small talk ensued. To be honest, I really am not a big fan on small talk. Once the weather's been discussed, how each others day went, my idea of small talk with strangers is quickly coming to an end. About here, (and the evening is just beginning), I began thinking about the proverbial root canal. Which was worse? Each has their own significant pain.

To make matters even worse, (I know, how could they be worse), EVERYONE IN THE INTIMATE LITTLE GATHERING FELT BAD. Deb and I certainly did and the three evening presenters also did. After all the other ones invited didn't show up, and the only two that would be listening to and watching the presentation were a retired couple that really didn't need the information being provided. When he said we should begin saving early in our lives, well...........we are not early in our lives anymore. It was a tough evening and at one point I thought to myself, "wouldn't it be nice to every once in a while in life's difficult moments "To Take A Mulligan."

Have a great week. Let me know what you think at or call me for one of your moments at 319.327.4640.



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